The OTHER resuscitation!

Hoookkaayyy,
well let me begin by saying that your blog post made me so happy ♥. It meant a lot to me because it was something that I didn't really have to complain about, and you did something about it right away. That showed me how much you really do care about me and our relationship, and although I know that you care, it's gotta be shown right? :P [not saying you don't show it, just saying the post was one example of how you do show it].

So, NO, I definitely don't think that all relationships are doomed to end in the same manor [btw, the post was so well written... if that's what your essays sound like, well then I don't see how you're not getting 90s, just saying]. I think that there IS a preconceived notion of how relationships work out. Like you said, boy meets girl [or VICE versa], they start "dating" as some may call it, things are good in the beginning, then things deteriorate further and further until one of the two pulls the plug. Well, that's what the generally accepted ideal is. I think that people think that that's the way it's SUPPOSED to be, so they don't do anything about it when they realize the relationship begins to deteriorate. People get TOO comfortable, and they forget how to appreciate the other person. NOW, I'm not saying being comfortable with someone is a bad thing... but there's a difference between being comfortable with a girl/boyfriend, and getting TOO comfortable. Being comfortable is feeling at ease around each other, and having the ability to be yourself, and that is essential in any good relationship. Getting TOO comfortable, however, is to forget to appreciate the other person. Of course, it's understood that you care about the other person if you've been with someone for a while, but there is no harm in showing it. In fact, I think that's what keeps relationships strong. For instance, I may WANT to get into Schulich [change that to U of T], but just wanting to get there won't get me there. I have to work for it. Similarily, in a relationship, you have have have to put in a lot of effort. Having feelings for the other person is NOT enough. And I don't think people who have long-term relationships are given enough credit for what they do. Being in a relationship is hard work. You have to sacrifice many things, adjust your priorities, try to not let relationship problems affect other aspects of your life, take the time to show the other person how much they mean to you, and most of all, love and accept the other person for who they are [I'LL get back to this after]. But in the end, if you truly care about the person, you are happy to do all this, and it is all worth it. Because what you get in return is the best feeling in the world!

Back to what I said before about accepting the other person. Well, I never noticed how important that was until recently. They say that the first couple of month of a relationship are the easiest, they don't take much work, but once you get past those months and REALLY get to see the person for who they are, that's when you get tested. Only the strong ones get past it [bro, is it just me or is this reminding you a sperm's struggle to fertilize the egg? You know how they have to overcome all these obstacles & only the luckiest/strongest ones make it? shiiiet I'm good :D] Anyways, as you know, we are very different. So I've had to adjust to so many things that I'm not used to. Like you're SOOOO laid back about everything! And like sometimes I misjudged your "laid back-ness" as you not caring. Basically, it's hard to explain, but I've realized that you're so perfect the way you are! And I wouldn't have it any other way, because you bring so many new feelings to my life! Like your personality balances mine out so well, and you basically complete me :D! Besides bringing calmness and laid back-ness to my life [:P] you bring me sooo much happiness it's ridiculous!

So as I was saying, the best way to keep a relationship going is to not take it for granted. Why should a relationship get more "blah" over time? I mean, sure, it's not going to be the same as in the beginning with regards to feelings. Your feelings for the other person will deepen [or in some cases weaken], and you will get to know this person better, but I truly believe that if both people are willing to work at it, they can keep a relationship as exciting as it was in the beginning!

Now, I definitely agree with you, there IS very little to complain about in terms of our relationship recently. Comfort levels are very high [in a good way], communication is good, support is great, affection is great, understanding is great, reciprocity is also great. In the past, you know I've felt that reciprocity was a problem. I'd always tell you that I felt that I cared about you more than you cared about me. And although you very sweetly always tried to prove otherwise, I was never really convinced. Well I'm happy to say that I finally believe you! I feel very happy about this, and maybe it's because I've been working on being less paranoid, but I really do feel that the feelings are reciprocal. Yaay! haha :) I have never been happier either <3. I can't even begin to explain how much I appreciate your [successful] attempt to "refresh our relationship in a old fashioned way". And the website idea. They are both sooo sweet and thoughtful and make me feel so special :D. And yes, lately my appreciation for you has grown immensly as well. You are so so so so important to me bby, and I'm so glad to have you in my life! Wanna hear something gay? I always tear up when I write you letters/blog posts. Even if it's good things, I always tear up [like right now]. *sigh* yes, your girlfriend is an emotional wreck haha, but I guess it's just because of how much I care about you and, you know, that overwhelming feeling I've told you about, and like I get all emotional :P, you know me!

Anyways, so today I FINALLY saw you, and of course, something had to happen... you lost your wallet. THAT WOULD happen to us! Hahaha, and yes, when we were walking outside I started feeling sick, but then I got all better. I know you noticed I was bit sad/disappointed, and believe me, you didn't do anything. I was just frustrated because I started thinking about how our afternoon was so "blah". Don't get me wrong, I loved spending time with you, but we all know how Deb gets frustrated very easily when something doesn't go her way :P. Basically I thought back to that time in January when you told me that we were getting kind of boring, and then I started to think that maybe we ARE boring. But to be honest, I think I was just annoyed that things hadn't gone as planned & blah blah blah. You were right... we have fun with each other, so as long as we're together, it's all good ♥. But we have GOT to start following through with our plans... we SHOULD go bowling next time, and we SHOULD watch a movie next time!
& I'm really looking forward to March Break & Cuba week... vacations and spending time together like this usually bring us closer, and I can't wait to see you more often<3 I want to spend lots and lots and lots of time with you, I'm going to be stuck to you like white on rice :P

ANYWAYS, I won't mention the breakup :P, hahaha but yes, I agree, you have such a special place in my heart, and you're my first REAL relationship, my virginity taker [:P], my first eyeball kisser, my best friend, and most of all, my first love [i know i'm copying you, but it's true :P!]

so don't ever forget that I love you! And I appreciate you soo much!


TI AMOOOOOOOO <3